How To Deal With Emotional Trauma

There are so many things inside us that we don't share with others. By seeing the world we just assume that there will be a happy ending but it's not true. Somewhere, somehow we all are emotionally unstable and facing some kind of emotional trauma. Many people suggest to visit a doctor or psychologist but it's no one to heal you but you.

Here are four steps to heal yourself from emotional trauma:

1: Acknowledge the Problem
First step is to realization and acceptance of the problem. Once you have observed it, your healing starts.

2: Face the Feelings
Next step is to experience and feel the depth of your feelings. If you run away from them, you'll never be free. Give yourself power not your feelings to live your life. You can face your feelings by sharing them with your friends.

3: Forgiveness and Responsibility
The most hard step. It's difficult to forgive the people who have hurt you but it is important to forgive because Forgiveness is for yourself, not others.

4: Heartfelt Gesture
Help others. Make them smile. Do Good. Spread positivity. Get positive vibes. This is the last step and not only heals you but also helps in self awareness.

How To Catch Liars?

No one is innocent in this world. You are Busy for someone but it can be lie for them. You might enjoying a movie with a friend. Everyone speaks lie, sometimes not to hurt someone but sometimes to destroy others. So how can you check and catch the people who are liers.

Repetition Of Words
They have nothing to say but they talk for a long time by repeating the same things again and again.

Too Much Information
They always tell you more than what you have asked. They talk too much and hopes that by doing this you will believe them and mostly people fall in this tactic.

They Speak Formally
When people are lying to you they talk or use phrases formally. For example they would say "I did not" instead of "I didn't".

Avoid Eye Contact
When someone is avoiding eye contact with you and giving you information about what is requested, then there are possibilities that he is lying to you. Liars avoid eye contacts because it confuses them and they lose their confidence.

Pay close attention to people's actions. Sometimes we consider snakes as friends.

5 Rules To Live A Happy Life

Happiness is something that everyone craves for. Some find it in materialistic things and some with nature and human beings. But many of us fail to find it. Here are 7 Key Principles to live a happier life:

1: Make Peace With Your Past
What's Gone is Gone. Don't run for it. Look forward, not backward so it doesn't disturb your present. Live in a Present, enjoy every moment.

2: What Other thinks is none of your Business
Many people will say you are good for nothing, you are useless But never give power to other people to decide what you are. Know your Strengths and Capabilities.

3: Give Time
It's not just a quote but a fact, "Time Heals Everything". Be patient and give it time and everything is going to fall on a right place soon.

4: You Are Responsible For Your Happiness
You are responsible for your sadness and happiness. Your happiness has nothing to do with your relations, things and achievements.

5: Don't Compare
Everyone is unique in their own way. You are special, you are unique. Don't compare yourself with others. You don't Know what they are going through.

Empathy: Gift or Curse

Empathy is the ability to feel what others feel. Empathic people have this gift from nature which makes them special. These people are the true healers. But everything has some drawbacks, so empathy can be sometimes curse. But it totally depends on an empathic person to use this gift as a blessing or curse.

Here are some characteristics which help empaths to develop their empathic side but sometimes for them, these can be poisonous:

Over Sensitive
Sensitivity is a gift but this world has made this term so negative that sensitive people think it as a curse. But if you are sensitive, you don't need to listen these people. Know that you are sensitive because you are here to cure the world with your sensitivity. It's God gifted.

Can Absorb Others Emotions
Empaths can Absorb the emotions of people around them. They have observing nature. But sometimes, empaths get confused whether these Emotions are theirs or others. Because of this quality, people approach them to talk. They make them comfortable.

Can Sense Energy
Empaths have ability to Sense the energy around them. Vibes come to only empaths, not everyone. And they prefer to be around the people who gives them positive vibes.

Introvert
Again, introverts are the people who feel that they are in the world for nothing. But because of feeling others emotions, empaths can judge who is trustworthy and who is not and for this reason, they don't make themselves for everyone.

Mostly Relations Are Overwhelming
In their dictionary, "too much" is nothing. And for this reason, they give too much to people and unfortunately expect Same and might get heartache.

Magnets
Empaths are true healers, so emotionally damaged or narcissists are attracted to you. If you are empath, then there you will attract more negativity because of your empathic nature. God has sent you to this world to bring positivity and happiness in the world.

Nature is Their Best Friend
Empaths are normal human beings with special talent, sometimes they might get fed up. They need sometime for them and nature gives them time,power and strength unconditionally just like they give, they feel and they understand unconditionally.

Heart Of Gold
No matter how much people hurt them, they always forgive them. They are not only sincere but also Pure, so they give everyone unconditionally. But this can be their weakness because many people Can use them for their golden heart. If you are empath you need to protect yourself just like you protect others.

Can't Express Their Feelings
Just like they care for others, they want someone to care for them. But they can't Express their feelings to others because they think no one would understand and mostly it happens.

If you are an Empath then never try to change yourself. You are here for the purpose and for that you will get highly appreciated. Empathy is very powerful trait, so never take it for granted.

Tip To Deal With Anxiety

Anxiety is feeling of fear about what's coming. Here is a tip to deal with it. It is Called Grounding which refers to five techniques to control your emotions and feelings.
First of all, look around you, then find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste.

This activity will help to fight with Anxiety.

How To Beat Depression

Depression is something we all are familiar. It is something that affects our daily routine. Medications can give you break from depression for sometime but here are some natural tips to fight with depression:

Eat Healthy
Eating Right things can help to fight with depressive symptoms. Try to eat fruits when you are depress. Eating Chocolates during depression also helps in boosting up the mood.

Exercise Regularly
Exercise not only fits you physically but also mentally.

Sleep On Time
Oversleeping and Less Sleeping also causes depression. Try to get 7-9 hours sleep daily.

Increase Social Activities
Meet your friends, neighbors and relatives. Have chat with them, Know their interests and tell them about your interests.

Speak It Out
Don't put things inside yourself. Discussing your worries and concerns with someone not only gives the solution but also reduces the stress.

Tips To Be More Sociable

Want to quit introversion, here are some tips to become more sociable:

• Smile 
• Ask More Questions
• Show interest to people opinions
• Chat with strangers
• Learn from likeable People
• Ask People for advice
• Don't be afraid of silence

Don't control yourself all the time

So what are you waiting for. Start now.

What Introverts Are?

Many of us misinterpret the introverts and concept of introversion. It is mostly taken as negaative and in weak terms but there are some qualities of introverts which not only makes them different from others but also more satisfying than extroverts. These qualities include

Shyness
Yes shyness, it is cinsidered a weakness but for some introverts shyness is not something related to fear of people. Actually interacting with too many people can be overwhelming. They like to be social but too much socialization can be exausting. For them peace is everything which makes them confident and happy.

Their Company
They are fond of their company  and it's not the people who are their companions. Their companions includes books, nature, prayers etc. Their company makes them self dependant.

Friends
They choose their friends very carefully. Quality matters more than quantity, that's why they small social circle. They are loving, caring and understanding and prefer those people who share same qualities with them.

They Take Time
Time is their best medicine. Their patience allow them to boost up. By taking time and being alone makes them happy.

Know that Alone and lonely are two different things and introverts are alone. Never mistake to judge them as a weak person because they are mentally strong. Appreciate introverts in your surroundings because they are peace makers and peace lovers.

How Parents Ruin Their Children Lives

Being Parent is a hard responsibility. Every parent wants best for their children but in this case good and bad are relative. Every Parent want their children to grow healthy, happy and successful. But Parents neglect to give their kids what they need for alot of reasons. Some parents are so confused that they even don't know about which way is right and some parents are so careless that they don't care about what their kids are doing. Some psychological, social and physical habits of parents that leads to ruin their children are:

Not Setting Boundaries
It's important to set boundaries for children. Parents need to teach their kids when and how to enter someone's room. Mostly kids never knock at the door and enters the room and parents avoid it because of their childish behavior but it goes with them for the whole life. When they become teenager, Parents will never want their kids to enter their personal space and also kids wants their personal space.

Punishment
Some Parents actually stereotype Parents believes in the concept of punishment. They take toys from their kids until or unless they don't follow the rules. This never works because they get used to it and also it affects their mental health.

Over Caring
Parents are not going to be with their children always. They know it but they never teach them how to live on their own. Too much caring makes children weak.

Doesn't Allow Children to Choose Their Future
Some Parents failed to achieve what they wanted and then they expect it from their children to become that and never realized what talent their kid have and what he wants to do. By not allowing their children to do what they want, parents ruin the whole life of children without even realizing it.

Every Single Detail is not for Sharing

We all have person in our life whom we trust alot and comfortability level between you and them is so high that you share even your intimate moments with them. This is because we fully trust them and their judgements.

But the bitter fact about human nature is that it craves companionship. It's with the people we share a great bond and innermost feelings. It's good to have such kind of people but one must not tell everything to others.  Your personal life should be personal. Even Cat which is known as Aunt of lion didn't teach it how to climb a tree. Cat keeps somethings to herself so that she can protect her.

Here are Somethings you should keep to yourself:

Goals Of Life
You never know what future holds for you and because of this reason you should keep your goals to yourself, so when you change them with time no one can criticize you.

Personal Life
Sharing Your Personal Life with others is an immature move to take. Your Family Problems are also your personal problems. When you share with your personal problems with others who loves you alot, might affect their personal lives and may harm your relationship with them.

Good Deeds
The World needs act of kindness but it doesn't need promotion.

Your Finances and Earnings
This must be your confidential detail. Jealousy is factor that everyone holds. Some might be able to control it but not everyone. Some people may not have great finances and might feel unfortunated and obviously no one wants to be the reason for someone's sadness.


Sharing your memories, moments with others is a beautiful thing but it is not necessary to share your every small detail about you. It is healthy to keep somethings to yourself.

Say Good-bye To Ego

An Ego is a term which is hard to explain because it is different for every person. Many people spend their whole lives being driven by it and some don't even know about it. Ego is not positive because it tell you about the things that make you superior such as "I'm always right." Not only superior, it also gives the concept of inferiority like "I am not good enough" or "no one loves me". It also makes your life dramatic because it explodes with emotions like anger and jealousy. It is an attachment that make you feel worthless every single time. For Example, your friend got a new bicycle and when you demand it from your parents and they say we can't afford it, your reaction would be "life is unfair". It's not you who is saying this,it's an Ego who is saying this. Your Reaction should be "it's okay, there are many people who don't have bicycle but I have".

So How to Get Rid Of it:

Self-Awareness
Know Your Worth. Stop Complaining, Act Humble, stay grateful, stay loving. Don't go for negative thoughts. Bring Some Positivity in life. Be Happy for your Friends Achievements. Congratulate them. Meet Poor People, talk to them. Give Food to Beggars. Whenever you look at someone who is better than you, remember that you are also better than anyone else. It's not a one day habit, it's a process and will take time. Be patient and Practice it.

Stars Shine in Darkness

OMG, they are so popular, they are so good at work, they are excellent students, they are good employees, they are the best. Everyone Focus so much on "They". Yes, they are popular but you are too. If not you will be. Stop underestimating your worth by looking at "Them". They may have many more than you but you also have more than someone else. If you'll get the things in hand without any hardwork you'll realize the value of it. Your struggle, patience and hard work is going to make you Shine. Always remember Stars Shine in darkness and darkness in your life is preparing you for shining.

Ways To Become Smarter

In a World full of myths, IQ level is also a Myth. It is believed since centuries that IQ and Talents are god-gifted but actually they are not. Here are some easy ways to become more smarter than before:

Write
Everyday we learn many things. For example, a new word or a new game or a new name...it can be anything. Make it habit to write at least 150 Words Everyday on things that You learn.
Make a list of things that you achieved. Try to recognize your small achievements. For Example, giving a tip to waiter makes him happy, and God has given you a chance to make Someone Happy or Bring a Smile Someone's face is an achievement. You did it. Write it down.

Have Smart Friends
Our Surroundings Affect us very strongly. So it is very important to notice that what we have in our company. Try to make optimist Friends. The people who are always willing to learn.

Read
Reading is the best way to learn things fast. It is therapeutic in nature. Read the books of your favorite genres e.g 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People, The Art Of Not Giving a F**k, The Song Of Ice and Fire or if u have nothing then read newspaper. It helps in solving problems, recognizing issues, understanding Humans and many more.

Exercise
Yes, it is solution for every problem. Make it a habit. If you are too busy in life than Do it for only 15 minutes. It not only makes you physically strong but also mentally strong. It improves memory, boost up your mood.

Learn a new language
According to the research, People who know more than one language are good at solving puzzles. It is best tool to sharp your memory. It also makes your Resume Better. It's always a Win-win Approach.

Forgiveness Is For Yourself

Holding On does not gives you Power. It Only makes You Sad and Angry. Remember that, you have not the power to bring justice to anyone.Let Karma Do It and Forgive. Forgiveness is a decision to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. For a Temporary Satisfaction Take Revenge but if you want permanent Peace Forgive Others. When You Forgive You Heal. Forgiveness makes You Strong. Forgiveness allows you to focus on achieving the goals. It allow us to take control of our own happiness. You desreve to live peacefully so learn the art of forgiving.

Don't Bullshit With Someone's Feeling

It's Hard to Control Your Feelings when you start to dislike or Fed Up with Others. Only you can do is to remember the good memories you made with them. But Avoiding them is not a Solution. If You No longer care for them, tell them. Don't Run Around behind their back Stop Acting like everything is ok, when it's not. You Have No Idea How that mentally messess someone up. You Should be real to them. They deserve to know the truth.

Are You A Terrible or A Good Friend?

Friendship is an important part of our life. It's the relation of expectations. But do you know what kind of friend You Are? Are You A Good or Terrible Friend?
Here are some little habits of good friends:

• Check Up On Their Friends. The little Conversations about how their friends are doing.
• Keep Friends in a Loop. They stay in touch.
• Always Ready To Text First.
• They Text Even though they know you won't reply
• Never leaves You alone in shitty situations. Even they are not with you, they are praying for you and prayers are the most precious and priceless gift anyone can give you.
• Always Available. They'll prioritize you and would manage to give you a time.

So do you have these characteristics or your any friend has these characteristics. If yes, don't let them go and never take them For Granted. They are the blessings and try to be a blessing.

Things To Do When Someone Betrays or Leave You

You love them, they didn't appreciate it and left. Betrayal is a wreck train that you never see is coming and it can come from anyone your baes, relatives, friends. It's hard to accept and control your emotions but still there are somethings you can do to make yourself stable:

Think Positive
You have lost the person who didn't love you but they have lost the person who loved them unconditionally. So it's there loss, not yours.

Recognize that It's Over
Accept that it is over and allow yourself to move on gracefully. Let them go and you will grow.

Focus On People Who Love You
There are still some people in your life who love you. Spend time with them, they are the one who deserve you.

Forgive
Forgive them and let them go. Forgiveness is for you not for others. When you forgive people, you heal.

Welcome Newness
What didn't work out made a way for new blessings to come. Don't Stress what's gone and welcome new blessings. Accept it you deserve better and it's on the way.

Optimistic People Do These Things Everyday

Everyone wants to be happy but only optimists know the art of it. Here are Some habits of them:

They Try Again
They doesn't get failure on nerves. They have glass-half-full mentality. They learn from their mistakes and try again to achieve their goals.

They have optimists in their circles
They hang out with optimists. They know how to get positive vibes. They spread and get positivity.

Grateful
They love to thank everybody. They know that life is going to give them everything that you deserve but still they are thankful for what they have. The hope is never lost for optimists.

They Smile More
Smile makes them more enduring. Even they are not able to smile, they fake it.

They Forgive
They don't hold grudges. What's gone is gone for them. They know that forgiveness is for them not for others.

They Write down Good Memories
They take few minutes everyday to make a journal about good things in their life and when they have hard days, because of this habit, they found something positive in that day also.

They Focus On Relationships
They are great listeners which makes their relationships strong. They have meaningful conversations with Friends and family.

Optimists are not born they are made and become one of them by adopting these habits.

Ways To Overcome Overthinking

Overthinking, one of the most dangerous habit and not only increases your stress level but you spend too much of time in negativity. Here are Some ways To Overcome it:

Be Aware

Be aware of it when it starts to happen. Whenever you doubt yourself or feel stress or anxious, just look at the situation and see your reaction, how you are responding. It is a seed of awareness.

Distract Yourself

Distract Yourself with happiness, positivity and healthy alternatives. Sing a song, dance, painting, photography, change your place, watch Tv and meditation can distance you from Overthinking. 

Accept You can't Control Everything

Failures are part of everyones life. Everyone has to face them one day and it's completely okay. Accept you can't control everything thing in life and learn from those failures.

Work Out

The best way to Boost up your mood. Do push ups, crunches or just go for a 20 min walk. Fresh air gives you positive vibes.

Live in The Now

Whats gone is gone. What will happen, we don't know. But are we living in our present??? Answer the question and start living in the present. Be grateful for your present.

Surround Yourself with Positive People

Make Plans with happy people, the people with enduring personality. Positive People gives positive vibes and positive vibes freshen up mood.

Tricks To Improve Mood

Going through a bad day?
Here are Some Tricks to Boost up your mood:

Smile
Its not senseless, it actually works. Try it. Fake it if it's hard to do.

Eat Chocolates
Chocolate contains tryptophan which is mood lifting serotonin in the brain.

Count Your Blessings
Write down the things you are thankful for.

Listen To A Happy Song
An instant mood lifter. Sing it. Singing boosts mood.

Call a Friend
Not to discuss your problem but just to have a casual conversation.

Get Out Of The House
Change your environment. Go for a walk in a park or go to market to buy a milk or anywhere but don't stay at home. Fresh Air can be very helpful.

Sleep
A nice nap can make a difference to your mood.

Do a Good Deed
Spend time with parents, help siblings in their homeworks, help neighbors in planting, do little things to make other happy. This too works very fast.

Say Hello To Memories
Break Out Your Albums and live the moments again.

Smell Flowers
You relax your nerves by inhaling some gorgeous scent of flowers.

We cannot force ourselves to change our mood. It takes time so be patient and keep trying.